[OT] Re: Ucranian spam

[Bob Sneidar]

This is not directed at anyone specifically, especially the author of this post, whom I respect very highly, but I feel I must opine. 

I was writing a humorous rebuttal to all of this, but some of it was true and it all sounded so bitter, so I closed the email and didn't save it. But I am going to guess this whole essay was written by a woman, who probably married her first love and stayed with him for life. Hats off to her. God send me a woman just like that, whether or not I deserve it, mind you. 

But almost all my friends have lost their wives after either she cheated or he cheated, and what comes out of the whole mess is that they both are really looking out for themselves. There are men for whom I could write an equally glowing essay, but these days society calls them boring stuck up prigs who think themselves better than anyone else. I could also write an equally bitter rebuttal to such an essay, and then scrap it before I am done. 

I think the real truth is that everyone, male and female, have some of those qualities, but lack others. Plusses and minuses, strengths and weaknesses. Virtues and vices. Does any of that speak to the issue of who human beings are as a species? 

With some mammals. the males get a wiff of some crazy stuff on the wind right about mating season, and begin to beat the cr*p out of each other until a few victors remain, who then round up all the critters from whence the odiferous emanations proceed, and then have their way with them. Some mammals pick a mate and stick with them for life. Were either species to act any other way, we would consider it really out of the ordinary, and try to find out "what went wrong". But they never seem to. Each species appears to behave in a way that is best for the whole. 

Humans differ at least in this, that they can choose to behave contrary to their instincts. We are told to accept this as natural, as though humans were also acting instinctually in this regard and didn't have the capacity for choosing to function in any other. How can we tell if this is a natural behavior or an aberration of some kind? 

Well again, I look to nature. When animals behave according to their instincts, what results is an efficient propagation of their own species. When humans behave contrary to their instincts, what results is no propagation of any kind. Do we not find this odd? Shouldn't natural instinct produce in us the same effect, if a behavior was truly natural? But it doesn't. 

So in summary, I am greatly attracted to the kind of woman that Jacqueline describes in this little essay. Every fiber of my being resonates with affirmation. I wish the majority of women were this way, but I don't find this to be true in my experience. I suppose that my desire for such a woman is instinct, but I gladly choose to follow it. If some men choose to act contrary to theirs, well and good. Maybe there is still hope that I will find one, still unspoken for. 

Bob


On Dec 2, 2010, at 12:33 PM, J. Landman Gay wrote:

> On 12/2/10 1:51 PM, Richmond wrote:
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>> Personally I think that both men and women are grossly over-rated.
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> Someone sent me this a while ago. We are wildly off topic now...
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> ******
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> God made men and women to complement each other with the unique traits each were given:
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> WOMEN- Women have strengths that amaze men.  They carry children, they carry hardships, they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy. They smile when they want to scream.  They sing when they want to cry. They cry when they are happy, and laugh when they are nervous.
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